What Islam says about parents
What Allah says?
Allah commands us to respect and love our parents by respecting them, honoring their opinions, and dealing them with love and gentleness.
"Worship Allah and join none with Him in worship, and do good to parents," Allah Almighty declares in the Noble Quran [Quran, 4:36].
Allah has further says in Surah Al-Isra, verse 23:
“Your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him, and do good to parents. If any one of them or both of them reach old age, do not say to them: uff (a word or expression of anger or contempt) and do not scold them, and address them with respectful words” [17:23].
We should be devoted solely to our parents because they have been with us in almost everything in our every phase of lives. One of the most essential aspects of Islam is the love and respect for parents.
ALLAH commands us to treat our parents with great respect
ALLAH has commanded us to be nice to parents and to stop disrespecting them in many verses. However, one should not obey their parents if they push them to leave his faith in Allah. For instance, verse eight of the surah 'Ankabt says:
We have commanded people to honour their parents. But if they urge you to associate with Me what you have no knowledge of, then do not obey them. To Me you will ˹all˺ return, and then I will inform you of what you used to do [29:8].
If one's parents are virtuous, however, it is necessary to respect and obey them.
The Mother's Significant Role
In the Quran, Allah stresses the importance of the mother's responsibility in parenting children. As a result, one should be more respectful to mother. Following Hadith also states the importance of mother more than father:
Once a man came to the Prophet Muhammad (SAW) and said: “O Messenger of Allah! Who from amongst mankind warrants the best companionship from me?” He replied: “Your mother.” The man asked: “Then who?” So He (PBUH) replied: “Your mother.” The man then asked: “Then who?” So the Prophet (PBUH) replied again: “Your mother.” The man then asked: “Then who?” So He (SAW) replied: “Then your father.” [Sahih Bukhari]
The Quran also emphasises the mother's importance, saying:
“And We have enjoined upon man to do good to his parents. His mother carried him with difficulty and delivered him with difficulty. And his carrying and his weaning is (in) thirty months, until when he attains his maturity and reaches forty years, he says, “My Lord, grant me that I offer gratitude for the favour You have bestowed upon me and upon my parents, and that I do righteous deeds that You like. And set righteousness, for my sake, in my progeny. Of course, I repent to you, and truly I am one of those who submit to You” [46:15].
Because she went through the difficulties of pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding, and rearing a kid, Islam places great importance on loving one's mother. However, the Quran recommends being kind to both parents, with a strong emphasis on the mother.
Parents Should Be Respected
There's a reason why ALLAH commands us to treat our parents with respect. This is because they were the ones who educate and care us. As a result, they have authority above us. In the Quran Allah says:
They ask you as to what they should spend. Say: “Whatever good you spend should be for parents, kinsmen, orphans, the needy and the wayfarer; and whatever good you do, Allah is all-aware of it” [2: 215].
What Does the Term "Uff" Mean in Quran?
In the Quran, ALLAH commands us not to utter even the tiniest rude comment towards our parents. Even saying uff to our parents is inappropriate. Some English Quranic interpreters have rendered the word uff as fie. It is an interjection rather than a term that expresses the individual's dislike for his or her parents. As a result, we must be careful not to use such insulting interjections when conversing with our parents.
Prophet MUSA (A.S) and the Butcher
Prophet MUSA (A.S) requested ALLAH one day. As a reply, ALLAH instructed him to go to a butcher's shop. When he arrived, he noticed a young man selling meat. As night fell, he went out to get some meat and walked home. MUSA (A.S) followed him to his home's front door. Then he asked the young man, "Do you not want a guest?" MUSA (A.S) was welcomed by the youth, and he entered.
Then he noticed the young person was preparing food, that person took an elderly woman over to her and bathed her before giving her the food he had prepared. MUSA (A.S) didn't understand what the old woman was saying. As a result, he approached the young person and questioned. The young person replied to Hazrat MUSA "This is my mother”. “I am constantly looking after her”.
His old mother prayed towards her son that "May God make you MUSA's partner in paradise". "Congratulations!" MUSA (A.S) said, “Your mother's prayer has been granted, and you are now my eternal companion."
Prophets who prayed for Their Parents
In the Quran, there are two prophets who have prayed for their parents. They are Prophet SULIMAN (R.A) and Prophet Ibrahim (R.A) SULIMAN (R.A). It is mentioned in Holy Quran in the following verse:
So he (Sulaimān) smiled, laughing on her speech and said, “My Lord, enable me to become grateful to Your favor that you have bestowed on me and on my parents, and to do good deeds that You like, and admit me, with Your mercy, among Your righteous servants” [21: 19].
When Prophet Ibrahim prayed for his parents and believers, he said:
“Our Lord, forgive me and my parents and all believers on the day when reckoning shall take place” [14: 41].
This prayer was said by Prophet Ibrahim when he was quite old. As a result, it is apparent that both of his parents were devout Christians and monotheists. And the man he addressed as father was not his real father, but his uncle, who had reared him.